Tower Moments

What are tower moments?

Tower moments are moments that cause serious wake up. They are intense moments and experiences that clean the slate for you and can cause a radical spiritual shift, a change in beliefs and patterns. They are big decisions and game-changing moments. 

They are moments that make you feel uncomfortable enough to change course in your life. They’re moments when everything comes crashing down or you're forced on a new path. I actually now think it's rather unlikely to get to your golden moments without going through some tower moments.
Overally, it is a feeling more than anything. And you’ll know when you had one or when you are having one. It will be especially apparent when you look back on it, if you didn’t realize it at the moment. 
Most of my tower moments were moments when everything came crashing down. I felt I was at rock bottom.

But here’s the thing: when things happen in life, it is just that. Something happened. Nothing more and nothing less. Telling the stories over and over again does not serve us and they do not help us create our future—they instead hinder our game and tie or chain us to our past.

I was guilty of this for so long it was unreal—it was the worst creation by default—only problem—I didn't know I was doing it. I was telling my tower moment stories over and over again not realizing I was keeping them alive and even worse recreating them and bringing that energy into the future. It wasn’t until I began to write School of Soul that I learned the VITAL lesson to lay the past down—I always heard this and I used to “release the past,” and Killing it was a whole different story

I had to kill the story

I had to cease feeding it life- feeding it energy. It was then that the space grew yet again, I began to get space from the past and space within from opening the space it was occupying. 

I gained space from the event in the sense that when I talked about it, it suddenly made it feel like yesterday again. Yet, once I stopped, suddenly if it did come to my mind I certainly would not say it out loud and suddenly it began to feel long ago—another lifetime. with this—peace grew.
And here's something else I’ve realized. Rock bottom will teach you lessons mountain tops never could. If you think back to all the most “challenging” moments of life, there will be great GOLD hidden in everything you have ever been through. Your next high is always directly right after your last low—this is not random or chaotic.
I think back to all those horrific moments in my life and suddenly I realized they were the cause of my next great expansion. Every time my heart is broken, or life has served me a life lesson that took away something or someone I loved, it was a set up. not a setback. With each bottom came my next high. And through those years of life lessons,

I have mastered the how and what to make change possible in almost any arena of life! So, now that's also why I feel so compelled to share what I’ve learned with anyone out there who has lost that sparkle for life and wants help with a strategic path forward.

Knowing how to see the lessons, I also know I will forever be growing and expanding into a better version of myself. In fact, once I learned how the game worked, I found joy in playing the game—the lows are just as much of it as are the highs.
I learned to ride the rollercoaster of life with a smile.

In fact, I really like this quote I once found:

“When you're headed for another crash landing and everyone around you panics— except you—you spread your wings and hit the ground with grace, because you know how to put yourself back together” (a quote from a song by Tyrone Wells).

Now, I actually say, celebrate when things start going wrong because it means something good is coming!

Exercise: Toppling your Tower Moments

After reflecting on moments of tower revelations with past associations and recognizing lessons I failed to grasp, I’ve come to a profound realization about the nature of growth: How do we truly learn? Often, it’s through feeling the heat of the flame.

When past methods, behaviors, or relationships no longer serve us, it’s essential for them to wither away. Each time something significant collapses in our life, it’s life’s way of clearing a path for something more meaningful, something more aligned with our destiny. Over the years, as life threw fireballs my way, I’ve grown to adopt a more introspective stance during these fiery trials. Whereas once I would roar back at life’s challenges, now I opt for silence and contemplation, tuning in to discern the wisdom life is whispering amidst the tumult.

Step 1: List out your “tower moments” tied to past encounters and lessons. 

Step 2: Reflect on your past. What were the silver linings in these trying times, and how did they equip you for future encounters?

Questions:

• How have these “tower moments,” particularly tied to past associations, molded your character?
• In what ways have these experiences contributed to your personal growth and evolution?
• Can you see how these “tower moments” might have set the stage for later events or realizations in your life?
• Are there any patterns or common threads you’ve noticed from these “tower moments”? 
• What do these patterns suggest about your life’s path?
• Drawing from the insights gained from your “tower moments,” how can you better steer through future hurdles or situations?
• Are there patterns or recurring lessons that stand out from these pivotal moments?
• How have these critical junctures influenced your core beliefs and principles?
• What emotions stir within when you reflect on these past moments of discernment? 
• How do you typically handle these feelings?
• Are there “tower moments” that remain puzzling or hard to reconcile? How can you seek a fresh understanding of these instances?
• How have these moments of revelation honed your resilience or enhanced your empathy toward others?

As you ponder on these questions, remember that every “tower moment” offers an invaluable lesson. It’s up to us to discern, absorb, and evolve.